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Showing posts with label Bob Stahn. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Bob Stahn. Show all posts
July 12, 2018
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February 27, 2018
Want More Control in Your Life???
Rob Porter recently resigned as White House staff secretary. A New York Times article (dated February 7,
2018) stated, “Mr. Porter announced his resignation on [Feb. 7, 2018] a day
after his two former wives accused him in interviews of physical abuse when
they were married to him.”
We do what we do to get our needs met. Perhaps his wives stayed in
their marriages to get acceptance, security and/or companionship. Or it is possible they didn’t get out sooner
because they received (or hoped to receive) power, status and/or support. These two women also made their declarations
in an effort to get their needs met—perhaps those of validation, safety,
control and/or to escape the guilt they felt for not reporting it sooner.
In a Washington Post article (dated Feb. 12, 2018) Rob Porter’s
first wife, Colbie Holderness, stated, “For me,
living in constant fear of Rob’s anger and being subjected to his degrading
tirades for years chipped away at my independence and sense of
self-worth.” This comment indicates perhaps
she got out of the marriage to Rob Porter in an effort to regain her
independence and self-worth.
Porter’s wives may not have been aware that emotional needs were
driving them to do what they did, but they did what they did in order to get
their needs met.
Also, Rob Porter did what he did to meet his unmet emotional
needs. They could have been needs of
acceptance, safety and/or competence.
They may have been needs of power and control. We do what we do in order to meet unmet
needs.
As human beings, we must have a certain level of control in our
lives or we go crazy. In very broad
terms, two types of control exist in our lives—internal and external. Internal control consists of things like
self-discipline, acting in line with our prioritized values, choosing right
because it is right even if it is hard, and managing our thoughts and feelings. External control includes managing people and
situations around us.
To the extent we have internal control, we have little or no need
for external control. If someone is
exercising a great deal of external control, it would make sense he or she is
lacking internal control. Those who have
been through trauma may go to great lengths to have external control in order
to maintain safety. We do what we do in
order to meet unmet needs.
Get Your
Needs Met! is a self-help resource book that offers chapters of practical
tools to create emotional independence and how to get your needs met. It is available at KeyInsightsPublishing.com
and for the price of a co-pay of a counseling session you will receive about 15
hours of therapeutic information.
On March 31, 2018, a Saturday seminar, part of the Get Your Needs
Met! series, will be held at the Shilo Inn.
It will be in the Temple View Room from 8:30-4:30 and will focus on
tools to meet the emotional needs of: Safety, Support, Independence and Power
& Control. Register at: GetYourNeedsMet.Weebly.com. Come and spend the day with Bob Stahn and learn
how to Get Your Needs Met!
February 23, 2018
February 02, 2018
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Get Your Love Needs Met!
Valentine’s Day is less than a month away. It is a day when we celebrate romance. Some people refer to it as “Singles’
Awareness Day” because many single people are not romantically involved at the
moment.
When we do not feel love in our lives, we feel it deeply
because we human beings are wired to love and be loved.
Years ago there were studies done of why infant orphans
in Germany were dying at a faster rate than those in Mexico. The orphanages in Germany were more modern, were
cleaner and better organized than the ones in Mexico. In Germany there were better hygienic
practices so the babies’ diapers were changed more frequently and the infants
were fed on a more regular schedule than in Mexico. However, the German orphanages had a higher
mortality rate regardless of what they did.
The studies found the difference was “mamas.” In Mexico the orphanage staff included women
whose sole job was to pick up and love the infants. They would cuddle them, sing to them and give
them human contact. The German
orphanages did not have the “mamas” and the German babies were literally dying
because they lacked love.
We humans need love.
When our love needs are not met, we feel empty and
lonely. Our self-esteem drops and we
feel out of place. Our lives seem to
have less purpose and we long to feel loved.
Four days before Valentine’s Day, February 10th,
I am hosting a day-long seminar at the Shilo Inn devoted to giving you tools
for your love needs to get met. After
this seminar you will never again need to feel unloved, empty and lonely.
Join me on February 10th at the “Ensure an Abundance of Love” seminar where we will add to the information found in
chapters of my book “Get Your Needs Met!”.
We humans need love!
October 31, 2017
Coping with Holiday Stress: Try physical activity
THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING!
Stress is a part of life--perhaps more so during the holidays.
We expend energy everyday simply dealing with the difficulties of life.
We must replenish or we will soon “run out of gas.”
TRY PHYSICAL ACTIVITY.
If you are tense, nervous or agitated, release the pressure through
exercise or physical activity. Try running, walking, sports, biking, playing tennis, aerobics, push ups,
sit ups, punching a bag, gardening, dancing, hiking, or jumping rope. Physical exercise can work out
stress, will relieve the “uptight” feeling, will relax you and turn the frowns into smiles. Remember,
your body and your mind impact each other.
exercise or physical activity. Try running, walking, sports, biking, playing tennis, aerobics, push ups,
sit ups, punching a bag, gardening, dancing, hiking, or jumping rope. Physical exercise can work out
stress, will relieve the “uptight” feeling, will relax you and turn the frowns into smiles. Remember,
your body and your mind impact each other.
For more information on coping with holiday stress, attend the presentation by Bob Stahn on November 2, 2017 from 6:30-7:30 pm at the EIRMC Cancer Center on the Corner of Sunnyside and Channing Way.
Please see our website: www.wellspringcounselingllc.com
October 30, 2017
Coping with Holiday Stress: Share your stress
Stress is a part of life--perhaps more so
during the holidays.We expend energy everyday simply dealing with the difficulties of life. We must replenish or we will soon “run out of gas.”
SHARE YOUR STRESS. Just talking to a concerned listener can help reduce your stress. Perhaps a friend, family member or counselor can help you see your problem in a different and more manageable light. If a trusted listener is not available, merely verbalizing or writing your concern can help diffuse the negative energy, dispel the tension cloud and bring a ray of clarity concerning your options. If you feel your problem is serious, you might seek professional help from a therapist.
For more
information on coping with holiday stress, attend the presentation by Bob Stahn
on November 2, 2017 from 6:30-7:30 pm at the EIRMC Cancer Center on the Corner
of
Sunnyside and Channing Way.
Please see our website: www.wellspringcounselingllc.com
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